Have you ever sat down and thought about how often you judge others? You judge them for their behaviors…their ideas, their lifestyles, their choices. Sometimes you judge lightly. Other times- if you are honest with yourself – it may be downright nasty. Often you are making judgments about people you don’t even know personally. Or if you do, you assume that everyone else in the same situation has the same motivations or will make the same choices.
In 2014, let’s stop assuming. Let’s stop assuming that when someone thinks differently than ourselves they are dead wrong or worse. Let’s stop assuming – let’s stop assigning guilt. Instead, let’s take the time to learn. Learn about their motivations, their needs, their thoughts. Approach each person as the individual they are. Don’t lump people into a group. Take the time to accept each other for the good, bad and everything else that goes along with being human.
Accept people. Understand them – that doesn't mean you agree – but understand where they are coming from. Perhaps, if we can stop talking (and in some cases yelling) AT each other and start talking TO and WITH each other, you might find that you have more in common with others than you think. You may also find yourselves counting your blessings and thinking “There but for the grace of God, go I”.
Stop judging. Start listening. Use your ability to empathize with others to gain new insights. Ask questions and don’t shut your mind as soon as you hear something you don’t like. Give it your full attention.
The ability to see other’s points of view, to create bridges of understanding will only bring good things to you.
In 2014, my intention is to facilitate this where ever possible and to remember to practice what I preach.
Happy New Year!
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