In Defense of Sales

During holidays or family get-togethers, many people dread spending time with various family members. Uncomfortable questions are asked, usually about relationship status (He hasn't proposed yet? Dump him!) or family/fertility status (“You can’t wait forever.” “Really, it’s no good to only have one.” or “You’ll completely change your mind once you have one.”). Me? I’m not grilled. I’m constantly regaled by tales of the worst of my industry or people’s thoughts about my industry – none of which are positive.

No, I’m not a politician or a lawyer. I’m in sales.

Everyone has their favorite, horrifying story of a salesperson run amok. They tend to cluster in fields such as car sales, real estate and home improvements. Now, I made a decision long ago to stay B2B. The hours are generally better and I've found the work environments to be more professional. Because most of the general public only see sales from the fields I've just mentioned, they tend to think that all sales people are like that.

Except, we’re not.

The best, the most successful sales people treat their customers and prospective customers with respect. They ask questions to learn about needs and concerns. They won't shove you into a square peg of a product/service when you need one with a round hole. They want you to be long term pleased with your decision to do business with them. They want you to refer others to them.


So why do people sell that other, terrible way? Simply put, it works. It’s not great for long term relationships and it certainly won’t gain any referrals but for a salesperson that needs to make quota, he might not care. Notice I've used “he”. In my experience, you’ll generally find harder sell techniques from men than women. To an extent, it’s about natural and environmentally reinforced styles. On the other hand, many times poor techniques simply arise out of misconceptions or lack of training or poor training in general. Poor communication from supervisors/managers also fall into that territory. If you've never been taught how to do it right and you spend your time in a situation where everyone does it wrong, well…. Those poor techniques will seem right to you.


So, let’s all make a pledge: To use our selling skills to enhance the customer experience. To be an ambassador for the sales profession by using effective yet appropriate selling techniques. To help guide our prospects and customer towards making the best decision for them. 

When you do this, notice how your sales will go up, not down. Notice how you’ll experience less stress on the job (because when we use communication techniques that encourage consensus and not conflict, it’s just easier). Notice how people will regard you in a more favorable light – as a partner not an adversary. Notice how your relatives will have fewer stories to regale you with at your niece’s graduation party.